Marriage I - God's Design for the Home

Memory Verse: Psal 101:2 I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.

"We believe that the home and marriage is holy and ordained by God; that in marriage the husband and wife become one flesh and establish a home; that the husband is to be the head of the home, the wife an obedient help meet to the husband and the children are to obey and honor their parents."

The Authority of the Bible

What is the Role of the Bible in My Life?

What separates Christianity from any "religion" in the world is its claim to an absolute, written authority from God. Having the Word of God is essential to a Christian's growth in grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ. The standards by which a Christian is to govern his life in every detail are found in the pages of the Word of God.

This study is to acquaint you with the basics of the Bible and how it relates to his everyday life, so you can begin to understand how its principles are to guide every facet of your marriage and your walk with Jesus Christ.

I Introduction to the Bible.

It is universally accepted that there are two fundamental sources of human knowledge: reason and experience. Both are essential to the understanding of the world around us. Yet, reason and experience do not answer the most profound and important questions of life. Where did I come from? What is the purpose for my existence? Where am I going, if anywhere, after death? Is there another source of knowledge that carries us beyond the limitations of human reason and experience? A source that answers these, the three most important questions of life?

Basic Instruction Before Leaving Earth

There is a third source of knowledge called revelation. This revelation is found primarily in the Word of God, commonly called the Bible. The Bible teaches us that God has revealed Himself and His commandments in the Holy Scripture. In these Scriptures we have direct access to an infinite and personal Being, who created all things for His pleasure, and who is non limited like His finite creation. He is a God who is omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent and immutable.

God chose to reveal Himself in a progressive way. As time passed, more and more was revealed and recorded about God, His will and His ways. At the completion of The New Testament, God's written revelation was complete, and this was carefully pointed out in Revelation 22:18-19.

The Scriptures are unique in several ways:

The Bible is a book which is composed of 66 books written by more than forty authors over a period of more than 2,000 years. It is totally accurate in its record of history and prophecy fitting together as though one man wrote it without one contradiction. The middle verse of the Bible is Psalms 118:8; the middle words are "The Lord."

The purpose of Scripture in your marriage.

The Scriptures have been inspired and preserved by God that we might have an infallible guide that will bring us to salvation and daily sanctification. For what purpose? That while we are here on this earth we might fulfill God's objectives of giving glory to Him while we, in our home live a marriage that portrays His love, and Christ's relationship to the Church.

The teachings of Scripture fall into four major categories according to II Timothy 3:16

1) Doctrine = What is right.

2) Reprove = What is not right.

3) Correction = How to get right.

4) Instruction in Righteousness = How to stay right.

"... that the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works" (3:17)


Reason and experience do not answer the three most important questions in life. What are they?

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B. ____________________________________________________________________

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There is a third source of human knowledge other than reason and experience. What is it?


The teachings of Scripture fall into four major categories. List them and explain.

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B. ____________________________________________________________________

C. ____________________________________________________________________

D. ____________________________________________________________________

The promise God makes to your home.

The whole premise for next few lessons on the home, all the promises made, all the instruction given are from the Word of God, The Holy Bible. In your marriage you should be willing to make not only a commitment to your mate for life, but a commitment to order your home and life in accordance to God's instructions. These will be outlined in the next few lessons. With that kind of commitment, look at the promises that God has made to you:

Josh 1:7 Only be thou ______________ and very ______________, that thou mayest observe to do according to _______ _______ _______, which Moses my servant commanded thee: turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that thou mayest ______________ whithersoever thou goest.

8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt _____________________ therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way ______________, and then thou shalt have good ______________.

Psal 1:1 ______________ is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

2 But his delight is in the _______ _______ _______ LORD; and in his law doth he ______________ day and night.

3 And he shall be like a ______________ planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall ______________.

Matt 7:24 Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and ___________ _______, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his ______________ upon a rock:

John 13:17 If ye know these things, ______________ are ye if ye do them.

There are a myriad of other Scriptures that spell out the promises of following God's plan in your marriage. Is that the plan you want to follow? Is that the peaceful, joyful, happy home that you want to build? The key is simple:

Marriage is Holy Ordained of God

1) It was in the Garden of Eden that God himself planned the idea of marriage.

Gene 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be ______________; I will make him an ______________ ______________ for him.

2) The word 'meet' is not common in our English, look it up and choose a synonym,. The woman was to be a(n) _____________________ help for the man

God made the kind of man who needed a wife. God knew his hearts needs and his physical needs, and so God declared it was not goof for man to live without a wife. God made Eve because she would fulfill the natural longing and fit in with the natural and normal happy life of Adam. Marriage was ordained by God.

3) God intended that a marriage union be undividable. The term 'divorce' as used in Jewish custom, refers to the dissolving of the marriage before the couple had come together in the physical marriage bond, before they left father and mother and they twain shall be ______________ ____________. (Matt 19:4-6) In that light any divorce, as used today is against God's precepts.

Matt 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let ______ ________ put ______________.

Why does one marry?

Three needs on Three Levels

Christ can meet all our needs!

Likewise, marriage is meant to.

What is True Love? Love is the mental, emotional, and physical, self-less desire to fill the needs of another. Mutual love is the selfless concern two people have for each other.

There are four kinds of love, in Greek, All four should be found in a functional home.

storge = parental and filial family affection phillia = human affection or friendship

agape = self giving, self less love, pure(can be 1 way). eros = physical love